Self discipline is one of the best approaches to self-actualization.
Interesting observation, and I agree! Especially if you think about what self-actualization means, which can be:
👉🏾 Becoming a better (making progress towards the best) version of yourself.
👉🏾 Reaching your full potential.
👉🏾 Becoming everything you are capable of becoming.
This last definition comes from psychologist Abraham Maslow, whose name you may recognize as the author of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. According to Maslow, there are 5 core human needs.
1. Basic needs — food, shelter, clothing
2. Need for safety — having stability and security
3. Relationship needs — feeling love and having a sense of belonging
4. Esteem needs — accomplishment, respect for other people, self-respect
5. Self-actualization — achieving one’s full potential
And you’re right, here’s where self-discipline plays a pivotal role in the self-actualization phase. It will be helpful to understand the concept of self-discipline as an important skill, a daily habit, even a way of life that can lead to self-actualization.
How can you implement it in your life? I suggest doing it in small steps every day.
1. First, narrow down your focus.
The way you start any day will set the tone to whatever you do, try to do, want to do, and then actually do. You can choose to be reactive, which can mean you wake up, get your phone, start checking emails, read the news on Twitter. If you’d like to create a different beginning to your day, get proactive by training your brain to be focused as soon as you wake up.
How would you do this?
Start your day with this question: What is the one thing I am committed to completing today? This technique trains your brain to focus on identifying goals important to you and forces you to prioritize the single goal you believe to be the most relevant in this moment. How? Put it in writing. Write it in large letters on a sheet of paper and hang it on your bedroom or bathroom wall. Read it out loud as you start your day, for example as you’re brushing your teeth or getting ready for work or school. Come up with an answer on the spot and answer it out loud. Then follow up by taking action.
2. Do your “deep work” as early as possible.
When it comes to work, timing — just like in most other aspects of your life — is everything. Being self-disciplined means you do deep work (concentrating on complex cognitive tasks such as studying, problem-solving, writing) first before you do anything for pleasure. It means you set aside a certain time of day for work, and then leave other times for entertainment and socializing.
How would you do this?
Make the most of your mornings by building a habit of doing your deep work early. Take full advantage of your circadian rhythm (your body’s biological clock), which is your natural rhythm that “knows” what are the optimal times for you to perform certain tasks. For most people, the early morning hours are optimal for deep work. Specifically, the brain’s peak performance is 2-4 hours after we wake up. So if you wake up at 6, then your peak times are until 10 a.m. Working early allows your brain to focus fully on the problem at hand, with fewer distractions from your environment.
3. Postpone what you do for pleasure.
What’s the point of postponing pleasant activities? You’d be surprised how far-reaching this practice can be. In a study performed by Stanford University scientists, results showed that delayed gratification can increase your chance at succeeding in many areas of your life — your education, career, short and long term goals, even your personal life choices. This study is now famous and is called the Marshmallow experiment.
How would you do this?
Start by observing the things you’d like to indulge in whenever the opportunity presents itself — for example, eating a large slice of chocolate cake after dinner. Then, resist the temptation to treat yourself by thinking of one reason why not to indulge: maybe you’re focused on your new fitness goals or developing better eating habits. And follow up — take your attention away from the distractions and focus on your priorities for the day: complete your homework, go outside for a run or brisk walk, listen to a podcast on an interesting topic.
4. To achieve your full potential, don’t let social media run your life.
Leading a self-disciplined life means you learn how to say no to indulging in pleasant activities, procrastinating on daily priorities, letting distractions take over your day. Distractions are toxic — one minute you’re catching up with a friend on WhatsApp, and next thing you know it’s two hours later and you haven’t started studying for your exam. When you turn off what distracts you, you have a better chance to actually get stuff done.
How would you do this?
Distractions come from different sources, not just your electronic devices. Deal with them one by one. First, set your phone to Airplane mode when you need to focus on work — try it for a 2-hour period. Next, let people around you (family members, friends, or roommates) know you won’t be available during that time. Check your email and social media apps 2–3 times during the day. To avoid browsing the Internet while working, close all tabs in your browser.
5. Think forward.
Like with all other areas in your life, self-discipline is for the most part all about attitude. It’s not about what you “should” do or what feels uncomfortable to do. It’s all about what it can afford you. With daily practice, self-discipline can train your brain to prioritize the things you can control and free up your time to focus on personal goals.
How would you do this?
Instead of focusing only on daily tasks, start thinking about your future and what you want to accomplish in 5, 10, and yes even 20 years. Maybe it feels like you’re sacrificing some things right now (chatting with friends or indulging in a delicious dessert), but think long-term. Write down a list of new habits you’re practicing that can add up to bigger results a year from now. Create time for them in your calendar — even for 30 minutes a day. When you understand how self-discipline can impact your life, you’re more likely to practice it today, tomorrow, and onwards.
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