What a wonderful question to ask!
Finding our purpose and leading a more meaningful life is something we can all relate to, regardless of our nationality, age, gender, education, income bracket, or cultural heritage. And it doesn’t have to be a BIG abstract question — there are always small and practical things we can do about it every day.
Figuring out your purpose in life may require you to make a few small changes and push yourself outside your comfort zone. Here are several examples of what you can do.
👉🏾 Start the day with a sense of purpose.
Most people wake up and immediately start reacting to their day — they pick up their phone, answer emails and text messages, get cranky because family members are noisy or perhaps get in a bad mood because someone in the household is upset or irritable. That’s just an average way to begin the day. How about if you structure your mornings so you immediately know what to do to get yourself on the right track? You can do that if you create your own morning routine.
How it helps to give your life meaning: It’s a simple life hack that makes you feel super productive early, gives you focus and energy, and allows you ample time to do what’s important to your personal development, instead of making other people’s agenda an unnecessary priority. And even more important, it gives every day a sense of direction.
👉🏾 Find your superpower.
Do you think of yourself as a person who just goes about their life, trying to get things done, meet tough deadlines, yet not really consider yourself talented or knowledgeable at any one thing? That won’t help you lead a meaningful life! To make a change, identify something you’re really good or maybe even feel deep passion for. It can be something that — when you do it — makes you feel happy, alive, buzzed with energy, and always 100% focused. Maybe you’re into developing a new app, or being fluent in three languages, or running for miles with a ton of energy to spare. That is your superpower.
How it helps to give your life meaning: Believe it or not, most people either don’t know what their passion is, or they don’t take the time to find out what it is (which is a missed opportunity!), or don’t think it’s important to explore what it can be. Be sure you take the time to find out what yours is.
👉🏾 Identify goals you can aspire to.
If you’re just living your life day by day without having any specific goal in mind of what you’d like to do in the future, then you’re not being respectful of your own time on this planet. To get your mind on the goal track, have an honest conversation with yourself. Ask yourself, where do I see myself in the future, who do I want to become, what would be an ideal lifestyle for me in ten years? Then write down your top 3 goals, map out what you need to do every day so that you can reach them, and create a weekly and monthly schedule so you can work every day towards achieving them.
How it helps to give your life meaning: Goals are a great way to stay focused on what is truly important to you. Even more important, they give everything you do in your daily life more meaning. That pertains to any type of goal: those that are school or work-related, focused on developing a particular set of skills, related to a talent you’ve ignored lately, an insecurity that is preventing you from moving on, or a network of friends or professional connections you need to build.
👉🏾 Express gratitude for what you have in your life.
For most people, it’s pretty common to assume that whatever is happening in your life, as well as your life circumstances, is just something “normal.” If you find yourself making similar assumptions about your life, that means you rarely pay attention to what exactly it is you have going for you. Want to change that mindset? Practice gratitude. For five minutes each morning, write down or think about 3 things you are grateful for today: it can be something as simple as a roof over your head, food in the fridge, a warm bed, running water and electricity, a positive relationship with someone close to you, etc.
How it helps to give your life meaning: Practicing gratitude rewires your brain to focus on positive things, which sets the tone for the rest of your day, and can directly impact the way you perceive your life. You will also train your brain not to focus and dwell on things you don’t have and that others may have, which inevitably leads to feelings of jealousy, envy, frustration, and unhappiness.
👉🏾 Become a person that others can look up to.
Have you ever heard of stories your friends shared about someone who did something unexpected, illogical, selfish, foolish, that took them off their life path and caused them to lose focus of what’s truly important in life? You don’t want to be that person. Instead, you want to use your intelligence. You want to make smart choices — whether big or small — that will help you get on the path to becoming the best version of yourself. Make it a personal goal to become someone people seek to gain knowledge in a particular field of expertise, or to be the person friends come to when they need guidance or just a warm embrace.
How it helps to give your life meaning: When you strive to help others in some way, you put yourself on a path to become a hero (or as the Greeks called ἥρως (hērōs). A hero is a warrior, a defender, a protector. All those goals will empower you to lead an extraordinary life full of meaning. Why? Because you are contributing to something much bigger than yourself, and you show that you have even greater goals to aspire to.
👉🏾 Be selective about how you are feeding your brain.
We’ve all been there — indulging in whatever form of entertainment we have available and letting it consume our free time. Watching TV for hours, listening to radio shows with constant commercial interruptions, browsing magazines or newspapers without a specific idea of what to look for and why it’s relevant to our life. What if you incorporated a few smart hobbies into your day? Pick better brain food, like watching documentaries on politics, history or nature. Listen to podcasts while you’re preparing dinner or tidying up your apartment. Read books to learn about human nature, boost your critical thinking skills, and give yourself the space and time to dream.
How it helps to give your life meaning: When you make this switch to ingesting better brain food, you start treating your brain with more respect. After all, your brain is a supercomputer! You create an awareness that you can do so much more with it, nurture it, and use it as a tool to help you improve yourself in every aspect of your life.
👉🏾 Develop a growth mindset.
Your mindset is a set of attitudes you have towards yourself and the world that you’ve built up over the years, and that started with messages in early childhood from parents, teachers, and other adults. Statements such as, “You should do this because you’re good at it” or “Don’t waste time on that because it’s not in your nature” get absorbed over time and lead to a fixed mindset way of thinking. When you have a fixed mindset, you feel stuck and can’t change the way you think about your abilities. To develop a growth mindset, you have to leave behind the limiting beliefs of what is possible, and tell yourself that your skills and abilities can be improved if you work on them consistently over time. Ask, what if I tried this? What could doing this new thing afford me? How will it help me grow? Where could I go from here?
How it helps to give your life meaning: A growth mindset means you keep yourself open to possibilities, allow yourself time to explore what excites you and what you are passionate about, and give yourself the permission to make mistakes as you work on improving skills that matter to you. If you practice it every day, you’ll see a big difference in how you see your life.